While reading CS Lewis’s great Christian classic, “Mere Christianity”, the Spirit of the Lord emphasized the following to me. You can love God with everything you have and your neighbour as yourself NOT by trying to manufacture feelings. Christian love, either towards God or towards man, is an affair of the will. Act as if you loved God and your fellow man and presently you will find affection follows.
The worldly man treats certain people kindly because he “likes” them: the Christian, trying to treat everyone kindly, finds himself liking more and more people as he goes on – including people he could not even have imagined himself liking at the beginning.
Another helpful insight from this book is that beliefs aren’t automatically maintained. They must be held in the mind and maintained by prayer, regular reading of the Word of God, and church attendance.
Praise God for these edifying passages of wisdom. I hope you found them as comforting and useful as I did.